The “legal option” seldom provides a long-term solution.
– David Feder
I admit that there will be some who will not be able to stay together after an affair but counselling plays an important role here too. Affair counselling helps to explain the conditions that were present during the committed relationship that enabled the affair to happen. And for those who are able to stay together, affair counselling helps individuals understand why the affair happened, take appropriate responsibility, express remorse for the betrayal and rejection that was caused, resolve issues (including self-esteem, family of origin issues, etc.), rebuild trust and facilitate a re-commitment to one another. As a result affair counselling can help reduce the risk that infidelity will re-occur in the relationship.
There is no guarantee that a couple will be able to survive the trauma of infidelity and remain intact and it is acknowledged that a certain percentage of relationships will end because of it. But affair counselling gives each partner the opportunity to make an informed decision about their future, as well as an opportunity to heal.